Hand Signals For Couples - “I Do Not Understand”

This week’s Hand Signals For Couples is as much for our casual readers as it is for our hard core students. But more on that in a second. First a report about the progress with last week’s signal “Mount“.

I think we had a real breakthrough with “Mount”. I don’t know what it was, but things just started clicking. Suddenly my beautiful wife and I were loading up after soccer games, church, Easter egg hunts, whatever it was, we were loading up kids for transportation with an unusual ease by using a single hand signal.

This is the way it’s supposed to work. Keep at it. Don’t give up. Keep practicing. It will payoff.

Now on to this week’s signal - “I Do Not Understand”. One of the common themes of the comments on this series has been that of confusion. This is to be expected.

Do you remember trying to learn a foreign language in high school by immersion? Your teacher would speak nothing but a language you couldn’t understand. It would take weeks to figure out what page you were supposed to be on, but eventually you found the page. You failed the class, but you found the page. These things take time.

This week’s signal can be used for clarification during stressful times. Master this signal and use it if you have trouble distinguishing between other hand signals.

The signal can also be used to diffuse marital strife. I think it will work very well during the middle of an argument that just isn’t going anywhere. In fact to try that idea out, I think I’m going to go start a worthless argument and spring this week’s signal on my wife to see what happens.

Week 4 of our new standardized hand signals for couples: “I Do Not Understand”